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In my last post,I wrote about taking your time making the decision of whether you will parent your child or place your child for adoption. So, while you are taking your time making this decision, what should you be doing?
First of all, take care of yourself. Sometimes when you are stressed, taking care of yourself becomes lower on the “things to do” list. Try to make taking care of yourself a priority. Go to scheduled doctor’s appointments for prenatal care, eat well, get enough sleep, etc. Don’t become so involved in the decision making process that you forget to take care of yourself and your baby.
Research your options as much as possible. If you don’t have a computer at home or easy access to a computer, this might be difficult, but research both of your options and much as time and circumstances allow. I truly believe that you can not decide what option is right for you until you decide which one is wrong for you and rule it out.
Talk with other parenting mothers in similar situations to yours. For example, if you are a teenage expectant mother then seek out teenage mothers who are currently parenting. Find out what worked for them, if they have regrets, are happy with their decision, etc.
Also talk with other birthmothers. Try and speak with birthmothers who have children that are a variety of ages. You wouldn’t want to only talk with new birthmothers. Seek out a few birthmothers who have older children as they have been dealing with the emotions of being a birthmother for awhile. Also be sure and talk with birthmothers of varying different adoption types. Find out how all of these birthmothers now feel about their decision, what they would do differently, etc.
Take your time and just take things one step at a time.
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