November 27th, 2008
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Categories: Seasonal/Holidays

You might be kind of torn today if you’re experiencing an unplanned pregnancy. Especially if you are dealing with family issues or fallout from/with the baby’s biological father, you might not be feeling especially thankful.

I remember that feeling! I do! I was very pregnant with the daughter I relinquished for adoption when Thanksgiving rolled around that year. While I had been on bed rest and staying at my own apartment, my parents brought me to their home the evening before Thanksgiving. I woke up on that Thursday morning and felt… different. Turned out the Munchkin had dropped and my belly was now pointing toward the floor! I remember it so well.


Physical weirdness aside, it was very hard for me to find something to be thankful for amidst all of the inner and outer turmoil. In fact, I can honestly say that since I was in the middle of it and no one was actively encouraging me to find something for which to be thankful, I probably just wallowed in my emotions all day.

Let me tell you: that’s no way to spend the day.

Whether you are planning on parenting or placing or don’t have a clue what to do just yet, let me encourage you to take a moment to think about what you are truly thankful for today.

In fact, here are a few ideas.

1. If you’re reading this, today, you are somewhere warm. You are using the internet. You’re better off than an alarming number of people just for those two facts. Even if it isn’t your home or your internet, you are warm and have the world at your fingertips. Give thanks.

2. Without getting into an abortion debate, if you’re reading this blog, you have likely chosen to carry your child to term. Even if you still feel conflicted about that particular decision, I assure you that growing life is pretty awesome. Give thanks.

3. Give thanks for the health you have maintained thus far in your pregnancy. Remember that some mothers have very, very complicated pregnancies (!) and if you haven’t had any complications yet, believe me, give thanks!

And there are many other things for which you could give thanks. Trust me. I encourage you to really look through the issues, the drama and the general nastiness that may be flung at you during this time and seek out even small little buds of hope today.

You are beautiful. You are strong. And you can make this situation whatever you want it to be. I am thankful that I have the chance to continue to encourage you during these difficult times.

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One Response to “What Do You Have To Be Thankful For?”

  1. yhelmet says:

    I’m thannkful for adoption sites like yours and sites like where I can learn about china before adopting a Chinese child.

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