If you are making an adoption plan, you may be planning on letting your doctor or health care provider know that you are making an adoption plan. This is a total personal choice and not one that you have to share with them. However, I know that some young women, such as me, who may feel more comfortable sharing your adoption plan with your doctor especially if you are planning to allow the adoptive parents to be a part of any of the hospital experience.

I'm sure you have read the discussions before as to why it may be better not to have prospective adoptive parents involved in pregnancy doctors appointments and the labor and delivery room and while I totally understand those points, I also understand that some of you may just feel more comfortable being up front with your doctor and possibly sharing those appointments. It’s a personal choice. If you have decided that you feel it is necessary for you to make your health care providers known of the adoption plan early in the pregnancy and that you may possibly want the adoptive parents involved in doctors’ appointments and labor and delivery, I want to be able to provide you with support and encouragement in this decision.

Telling your doctor and dealing with health care professionals regarding your adoption plan can be a little nerve wracking, so here are a few tidbits to keep in mind.

• When telling your doctor of your adoption plans, you don’t have to go into great detail aside from telling them that for your own personal reasons you have chosen to make an adoption plan.



• If you are bringing the prospective adoptive parent(s) to doctor’s appointments with you, then there is all the more reason to let them know what is going on.



• You really have to be a strong person and make boundaries as to what is comfortable for you, before things creep into the uncomfortable. If questions are too personal or nosey, say so.



• Your doctor should not begin to interrogate you as to why you are placing your child for adoption. Sure, he or she may ask why, and be curious, but being overly nosey and judgmental is out of line.



• Your health care provider should be able to accommodate allowing one of the prospective adoptive parents to attend doctors appoints with you, as long as this is comfortable with you.



• It is not ok for medical personnel to judge your choice. Remember it is your choice.