The decision of whether or not you should make an adoption plan for your unborn baby is not one that should be rushed into. It is a decision that takes a lot of thought, contemplation, and soul searching.

I think often times expectant mothers may feel rushed into making a decision. The impending due date is like an alarm clock sounding off and you may feel like you have to have a decision made, a family chosen, and everything ready before that due date comes. You know, I totally get that. I felt the same exact way during my pregnancy. I’m a planner by nature, so I needed everything mapped out, planned out, and figured out long before my due date in order to feel ok (or as ok as you can about making an adoption plan) about things.

I also get that you may want to choose adoptive parents as quickly as possible so that you can have a good amount of time getting to know them better, bonding with them, and spending time with them for the duration of your pregnancy. For me, I did have peace of mind that I knew Charlie’s parents pretty well by the time they were leaving the hospital with him in tow.

But, don’t let that impending due date rush you into making a decision about whether or not you should parent or make an adoption plan. And don’t let the time crunch you may be feeling make you rush into choosing a family for your child. Don’t settle.
Even if your due date is very close, if you haven’t found a family that meets what you are looking for, keep looking. Keep searching.

Just because your baby may arrive is not going to make him or her any less desirable. If your baby is born and everything is not planned and you are moving forward with an adoption plan, it can still be done! Take your time!

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