If 2009 is the year in which your baby will be born, I encourage you to start the year off on the right foot. How so? With your child in mind. Granted, you likely have your child in mind most of the time. But I encourage you to do so in a very proactive manner.
Whether you choose to parent or place your child for adoption, you will one day be faced with questions from your child. While some questions may not always have the perfect answer, you can do things now that will show your child that you always had his or her best interest in mind.
Journal, tonight and/or tomorrow, about the plans you are dreaming for your child’s future. Talk about anything and everything. Be honest about your misgivings about your ability to provide such things. Talk about why you are wishing those things in his life. Discuss how you love her even now.
Keep up with the journal. All year. As frequently as possible. Until your child arrives. And even thereafter. Your child will one day treasure your words as you make your way through this difficult time. Starting now, at the beginning of this brand new year, gives you a clean slate to work from and to write not only your story but your child’s story.
Beyond the added benefit of giving your child insight into this difficult time, it will likely help you sort through any tough questions or emotions that you are currently working through at this time. Writing has a way of doing that (trust me). You will come out of this journaling experience with much more insight into your own emotions as well. In the end, it is all very win-win.
But start tonight. Put this year behind you and the year of your child’s birth in front of you and go forward. You’re not alone!