November 1st, 2007
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Recently while waiting at the hair salon, I was reading Glamour Magazine and read about an interesting blog called Storked written by a Glamour journalist. The blurb in the magazine interested me enough for me to write it down and come home and look it up later.

The blog is written by Christine Coppa. a twenty six year old single woman who was living it up in New York City, dedicated to her dream job at Glamour Magazine when she unexpectedly becomes pregnant. I’ve been reading through the archives and I’m captivated. Not only am I enjoying her blunt style of writing, but I am enjoying her story.

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Her teaser sums it up pretty well:

Imagine that you’re 26 with a cool job, a great apartment and a fun life in New York City. Now imagine that you get knocked up—and have to move back to New Jersey to raise your son solo. I’m Christine Coppa; welcome to my world.

If you start at the current posts, you meet her son who is now two months old. But if you venture through the archives, you experience her pregnancy and some of the things she had to deal with being a young, single expectant working mother. If she considered adoption, she doesn’t mention it, but she did have tough decisions to make, like moving out of her New York City apartment and back into her parents home in the suburbs of New Jersey. She doesn’t go into detail about why, but she does state that her baby’s father (who was her boyfriend of three months at the time she discovered she was pregnant) bailed out on her and that she will be raising this baby as a single mother. I love how she describes her feelings about her pregnancy: “Fear turned to excitement, to panic, back to fear, to joy, to tears, to acceptance, to a love like no other.”

So many times in the adoption world, expectant mothers hear that two parents are better than one and that children need a father figure. While I agree to some extent, that if possible a child should have two parents, that doesn’t mean that he or she shouldn’t automatically lose his natural mother just because a father is not in the picture. I think Christina sums it up best in the last paragraph of a post titled What’s Normal?

Being a single mom is hard sometimes, but it’s all I know. I have no idea what it is like to have a spare set of hands around for JD’s 2am feeding and neither does JD. He sees my face when he wakes up and it’s my shoulder he falls back asleep on. I sing to him during his bath and I make raspberries on his tummy with my mouth. I feed him his bottle and kiss his eyelashes. I dance with him every morning. I change his diaper. I dress him. I play with him. I’m his mother…and his father. It’s normal to us. It’s all we know. And if it seems not so normal to JD one day I’ll answer his questions.

Makes sense put like that doesn’t it?

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5 Responses to “Spotlight on Blog: Storked”

  1. Sunbonnet Sue says:

    sounds like a gal with her priorities figured out. A lot of people told my mother – upon becoming a widow – that she should place her children up for adoption. She was young and had limited financial resources. She thought the same as this young woman. How would losing both parents help?

  2. thomasina says:

    Hooray for Christine. She is my heroine of the day. I agree with Sunbonnet Sue; she really has her priorities straight.

  3. happygmom says:

    I clicked on the link to Christine’s on-line blog and read the comments. I am sure that they are edited, but I was so pleased to see how many nice comments she received – many of them pointing out other family arrangements that are not the traditional “norm” but normal to them.

    I hope to read more from Christine. I would love to hear about her parents as I can certainly identify with them, being in the same situation with my daughter. Yup – it is joyously normal to us.

    I was also very pleased to see the article in a mainstream magazine. I foolishly gave my daughter a subscription to a popular magazine for parents without checking it out. In the 2 years that she received the magazine, there were zero articles about single parents. I wrote to the editor but got no response. I guess they operate under the silly premise that all single mothers are trash and do not money to buy magazines.

    Off to write to Glamour’s editor a nice letter!

    Happy G’Ma

  4. happygmom says:

    Whoops – I forgot to thank YOU, Coley, for your wonderful blog! Thank you.

    Happy G’Ma

  5. Coley S. says:

    That is so very true about their not being much in the way of magazines and what not for single mothers. It’s odd that there isn’t since we have so many single mothers nowadays.

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