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08/24/07

Should You Tell your Doctor you are making an Adoption Plan? Part 2

Posted by : Coley S. in Crisis Pregnancy Blog at 06:04 pm , 354 words, 126 views
Categories: Pregnancy

In my last post, I talked about whether or not you should notify your doctor that you are making an adoption plan. As I concluded in that post, it really is a personal decision.

But if you do ultimately decide that you wish to tell your doctor and other medical personnel that you wish to notify that you are making an adoption plan, it can be a bit of an intimidating conversation for some. Below are a few tips and suggestions on how you can get through that conversation.

When telling your doctor of your adoption plans, don’t feel obligated to go into great detail about why you have chosen to make an adoption plan. You can simply say that for your own personal reasons you have chosen to make an adoption plan and leave it at that.

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Know your own boundaries and what questions that may be too personal. If the conversation begins to head to the uncomfortable or too personal realm, then say so and don’t answer those questions.

Your doctor (or any of his staff) should not begin to interrogate you as to why you are placing your child for adoption. Sure, he or she may ask why, and be curious, but being overly nosey and judgmental is out of line. Again, it is your choice as to whether or not to answer those questions.

If it is your wish for the prospective adoptive parents to attend doctor’s appointments with you, then your health care provider should be able to accommodate this request. Perhaps they may have a rule about the number of people who may accompany a patient in the examination room, but they should allow at least one other person to be there with you if you so choose.

Remember this is your choice. It’s not ok for your doctor or any of his staff to make you feel judged by the decision you have made.

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Comment from: logan05 [Member]

I am very lucky to have a doctor who not only let the adoptive parents be with me at any time, she also encouraged it and was there when I signed the papers. Sometimes your doctor can be you strongest support person.

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