When you are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, you are probably feeling a million different emotions. And sometimes all of them at once! Plus all those lovely pregnancy hormones to deal with as well! It’s like a rollercoaster ride; full of ups and downs and twisty sharp curves where you are not sure what is coming next. I can remember feeling in awe of the life growing inside of me but scared at the same exact moment because I didn’t know how I was going to take care of that little life!

I plan to begin exploring some of the different emotions involved in making an adoption plan and will begin an ongoing series on the emotions you may be feeling.

It’s important to remember that it’s ok to experience mixed emotions and that is healthy to recognize each emotion as it comes along. Experiencing mixed emotions is part of the process and it is healthy to acknowledge and deal with them as they come along. Bottling up your emotions can cause health problems such as hypertension, ulcers, heart problems later in life, etc.


Anger
Anger in it self is not bad, it’s a real emotion. The instinctive way to express anger is to respond aggressively by expressing it in a negative way, such as blowing up at someone. Getting too angry is not healthy and will not solve anything. Bottling up your anger and not dealing with it is unhealthy as well. There are healthy ways in which anger can be expressed.

You may be directing your anger towards some or all of the following:

• Yourself



• Your Parents and other family members



• Your boyfriend, partner, or spouse



• God

Some productive ways to express anger or to cope with your anger are:

• Write a letter to who you are angry with (You don’t have to actually give it to them but just by writing it you can release some of your anger.)



• Talking to someone about how you feel and why



• Try relaxation exercises such as breathing and clearing your mind of thoughts.



• Using humor - Light humor can ease your raging emotions.



• Punch your pillow.

To be continued...


Source: Dealing with Anger