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When you tell your family and friends that you are pregnant, you probably are going to be bombarded with well intentioned opinions and advice. You may also deal with some anger, disappointment, and shock from family members.
At times, the opinions and advice of friends and family may become overwhelming. Everyone seems to know what you should do and what is best for you. But, only you know what is best for you and your unborn baby and only you can make this decision. They may or may not be supportive of whatever option you choose whether it be parenting or placing your baby for adoption. At some point, you will have to put your foot down and let friends and family know that you appreciate their advice, support, and love but only you can make this decision and you need a little space and room to be able to do that.
Here are a few pointers when dealing with very opinionated friends and family members.
- Let them know that you appreciate their thoughts and opinions but this is your decision.
- Set boundaries. Thank them for support and love but give them a time frame of can when you can further discuss this with them. For example, say something like, “Give me a week or 2 to think over things on my own and then we can discuss it.”
- If you really need to discuss everything with someone, but feel you can not turn to loved ones because of their opinions, try discussing things with a third party person.
- If you feel pressured by their advice and opinions, let them know in a gentle way.
- Try empowering them with information regarding the choice you are leaning towards.
- Keep in mind, that these people love you and are hurting for you. They are well intentioned and genuinely do care about you and your baby and are only trying to help.
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Boundaries are very important.