Watch out, I think I am just in a mood lately! It seems like little comments people make are irking me more so than usual.
If I had a quarter for every time I’ve heard the phrase “I don’t know how you do it” or “I don’t know how you did it” or “I don’t know if I could do it if I were you,” I could take a really nice shopping spree to Paris! Oh, all the purses I could buy!
Ok, I’m getting off my point……
I probably hear this more often than the average birthmother, because not only am I a birthmother, I’m the mom to a special needs child granting-i-don-t-know-how-you-do-that me membership into two different “classes” for lack of a better term. Lucky me!
I don’t know why it is that this statement bothers me so much but it does. In regards to Noah, sometimes I have been known to respond by saying (and this all depends on my mood at the moment) “God didn’t call me up and ask me if I wanted to parent a special needs child, I do it because he is my child!” It’s like in my saints and sinners post, I’m not a saint, I’m just a girl doing the best thing for my children.
In regards to Charlie, I typically just say something like, “I did what I felt was the best thing for my child.” Once again, I’m just a girl doing the best thing for my children.
With the comment, “I don’t know if I could do it if I were you” I will sometimes respond with “And I hope you never have to,” because I sincerely do. I wouldn’t wish the heartache of placing your child for adoption to even my worst enemy,
I often wonder what people are expecting your response to be when they make a blanket statement like that. Are they expecting any response at all or are they just saying something without much thought because they don’t really know what to say?