Watch out, I think I am just in a mood lately! It seems like little comments people make are irking me more so than usual.
If I had a quarter for every time Iâ€™ve heard the phrase â€śI donâ€™t know how you do itâ€ť or â€śI donâ€™t know how you did itâ€ť or â€śI donâ€™t know if I could do it if I were you,â€ť I could take a really nice shopping spree to Paris! Oh, all the purses I could buy!
Ok, Iâ€™m getting off my pointâ€¦â€¦
I probably hear this more often than the average birthmother, because not only am I a birthmother, Iâ€™m the mom to a special needs child granting-i-don-t-know-how-you-do-that me membership into two different â€śclassesâ€ť for lack of a better term. Lucky me!
I donâ€™t know why it is that this statement bothers me so much but it does. In regards to Noah, sometimes I have been known to respond by saying (and this all depends on my mood at the moment) â€śGod didnâ€™t call me up and ask me if I wanted to parent a special needs child, I do it because he is my child!â€ť Itâ€™s like in my saints and sinners post, Iâ€™m not a saint, Iâ€™m just a girl doing the best thing for my children.
In regards to Charlie, I typically just say something like, â€śI did what I felt was the best thing for my child.â€ť Once again, Iâ€™m just a girl doing the best thing for my children.
With the comment, â€śI donâ€™t know if I could do it if I were youâ€ť I will sometimes respond with â€śAnd I hope you never have to,â€ť because I sincerely do. I wouldnâ€™t wish the heartache of placing your child for adoption to even my worst enemy,
I often wonder what people are expecting your response to be when they make a blanket statement like that. Are they expecting any response at all or are they just saying something without much thought because they donâ€™t really know what to say?