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11/28/07

Pressures during an Unplanned Pregnancy

Posted by : Coley S. in Crisis Pregnancy Blog at 04:49 pm , 368 words, 675 views
Categories: Dealing with Others

When you are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, not only are you dealing with the pressure of the pregnancy itself, but you are faced with other outside pressures as you try to make decisions about your future and your baby’s future. In this post, we will explore a few of those pressures.

1. Religion - If you are a religious person, you may be dealing with the fact that you are facing an unplanned pregnancy without the "right" circumstances. Your church and religious background could be putting pressure on you with thoughts of being pregnant and unmarried is “bad” or being a single mother is “bad.”

2. Parents - Even if you are an older expectant mother, you may be facing pressure from your parents. If you are younger and still live in their home or depend on them financially the pressure could be greater as you may feel like you have to do what they want in order to continue living with them or have their support.

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3. Baby’s Dad – Your baby’s dad could be your husband, boyfriend, or he could be an ex by the time you find out you are pregnant. He may have his own conclusions about what you should do with this pregnancy and raising your child. He may be pressuring you into decisions that you are not comfortable with or his ideas of what should happen long term may be totally different from yours.

4. School/Career – If you are pregnant and still in high school or college, you could be feeling pressure to make an adoption plan in order to finish your education or be successful in your career. While it is difficult, there are many women who have been able to juggle motherhood and school or a career.

5. Financial – Some of the pressure you may be feeling could stem from your finances. Perhaps you are worried that you do not make or will not have enough money to pay for the many things a baby needs.

Again, this was just a brief overlook at some of the major pressures you may be experiencing. So many pressures, very overwhelming!

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Comment from: happygmom [Member]

When my daughter was struggling to come to grips with her unplanned pregnancy, I underestimated the boy friend pressure. The father of her son disappeared after she refused an abortion. So in addition to planning to raise a baby alone, she was mourning the loss of a long-term relationship which included talk of marriage and "happily ever after". She was devastated and everyone blew it off. Shame on me! When her son was a year old, I asked what was the hardest part of her experience ahd been. I expected "living with you and dad", "sleep deprivation", "juggling montherhood, school, and work". Instead she said, "Losing J." Ugh, I felt like the world's worst mother. I never helped her mourn. She struggled all alone with that.

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