September 22nd, 2008
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Categories: Positive posts

This post is not political. Just a heads up.

I’ve been reading some commentary on what Bristol Palin’s pregnancy means for and to other young mothers and mothers-to-be. Everyone is quick to point out that she comes from a family that is financially stable, is blessed with a family who is offering their support and will be marrying the father of her baby. And then many an article that I have read is quick to say, “But that’s not what other mothers are experiencing!”

And it’s true, of course. The majority of mothers experiencing unplanned pregnancies are not on the same playing field as Bristol. Young? Yes. Scared? Totally. But similarities quickly run out when you start dealing with real world, non-semi-celebrity status issues. But I’m tired of the negative spin being put on these comparisions.

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It seems to me that every single article I have read comparing Bristol to other young, pregnant mothers takes a negative spin on the “other young mothers.” And I’m here to say: Yes, it’s going to be hard but you can do it! You can! You can beat the odds. You can blast through the stereotypes and stigmas and live a respectful life. You can achieve your goals. You can be a great mother. You don’t have to be rich to be a great parent.

And I understand the realities. This article does a great job of highlighting the fact that most teen parents live in poverty. But, hey! With the economy being what it is today, that’s not much different than any other family, now is it? (Oh, wait, I said this wouldn’t be a political post. Ignore that sentence.)

All the same, I want to let young mothers dealing with an unplanned pregnancy know that they can do it. It’s going to be hard. It’s going to be the hardest thing you’ve ever done and will likely ever do. But you can make it through this time in your life. You can make the decisions. You can push forward. You don’t have to be a Vice Presidential candidate’s daughter to succeed. You just have to make the decision to succeed and then make a plan to accomplish that goal.

You can do it. Even if you’re not Bristol.

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2 Responses to “Okay, Fine. You’re Not Bristol.”

  1. Nicole says:

    I feel obligated to comment on this. I got pregnant at 17 1/2 with my first beautiful green eyed daughter, she was born 3 months early and I slept at her incubator for 5 weeks. I then had another Gorgeous blonde curly haired little girl 1 year and 9 months later. I am also a full time step mother to two beautiful school age children, a wonderful 9 year old girl and a handsome 7 year old boy (both I am trying to adopt). I am also with the most wonderful man in the world who love his family very much. I would like to think that I am proof that a young mother can make it. I work with people living with dissabiilities and am studying to be a social worker. Me, A young woman who came from a poor broken home with a drug addict mother. Not all young women are poor pathetic little girls living off of society. Many of us are strong, intelligent and determined to give our children a good life. Now yes, there are many young mothers who cannot handle the resposibility they have put on themselves. But it does not mean there is no hope for future young mothers. I am not encouraging children to go get pregnant. I am simply sticking up for those that do. I immediatly went to College, and while I am not done with my degree and it will take me some time to complete it, I am sticking to it 1 class at a time. It is possible to have a happy and fulfilling life as a young parent. For me, after I looked into my daughter’s eyes I felt whole for the first time. I am the happiest I have ever been and I love my life! Young mother or not isn’t that what we all strive for, Isn’t that all we could ask for?

  2. sonflower28 says:

    Yes I agree with the writer of this particular blog 100%. Yes unplanned pregnancies are unfortunate but once the baby is here life has to go on. It is critical for our society to stop dwelling on the negativity and be proactive positivity re-enforcers. It that makes any sense.lol.

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