You have asked the questions and narrowed it down to one or two families and now you want to meet them in person. You are probably feeling very nervous! Don’t worry its normal! And keep in mind, that the prospective adoptive parents are probably just as nervous as you are! This is uncharted territory for all of you and there are so many emotions involved so nerves are expected and normal.

If you are working with an adoption agency or through an adoption professional, typically they will mediate this initial meeting. This is good because they can help you ask your questions and fill any awkward, nervous silences that may occur. Your meeting will probably occur at the office of the agency or adoption professional.

If you are going the independent adoption route, then your first meeting will probably occur at a neutral location, such as a restaurant or coffee shop. You may wish to bring along a supportive family member or friend to help you ask your questions.

I suggest writing down any questions that you may have or definitely want to ask, this way if you get nervous and forgetful, you have them in writing to help you remember what you wanted to ask.

I also suggest meeting more than one family in person. Some people may disagree with this, but I really think it is in the expectant mother’s best interests in the long run. Even if you know in your heart that one couple is the right ones, I still suggest meeting another in person just for comparison sake. And if that couple is definitely the right couple, meeting another couple will not change that and will only reaffirm that to you.

So, don’t worry about what you are going to wear or how your hair looks, just bring your questions and follow your gut instincts.

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