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Depending on the relationship with your unborn baby’s father, the prospect of telling him that you are pregnant might be very scary.
Personally speaking, I was very nervous about telling Charlie’s biological father I was pregnant. We were no longer dating or even on speaking terms so I’m sure he knew that something was up when I called him up out of the blue and asked him to meet me at my apartment.
- Before you tell him, if you have only taken a home pregnancy test, you may want to confirm with a doctor or health department that you are indeed pregnant. If you are no longer together, there may be no need in telling him until it is confirmed. Although pretty reliable nowadays, pregnancy tests are not always entirely accurate so by confirming that you are indeed pregnant you may save yourself a little drama.
- Try to choose a time and setting that is appropriate, meaning don’t tell him at work or at school, unless you have no other choice. If you feel intimidated telling him alone, bring a close friend or family member along.
- Avoid making the mood negative from the get go by saying “I have some really bad news…”
- Try to be prepared for his reactions. This is easier said than done but depending on the type of relationship you have, how long you have been dating, if you are still dating, etc. will depend on the type of reaction you may get. You may get silence, insensitivity (such as “Is it mine?”) or total support, like him saying “I’ll support you in whatever you do.”
Just keep in mind that this will be shocking to him. Just as you were shocked and surprised when you initially found out you were pregnant, he is going to feel the same way!
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