I had the opportunity to go to a workshop called “Creating a Blessingway Ceremony” or “Mother’s Blessing”. It was so beautiful. Since I am working with pregnant women and families, I am able to participate and share with you all the wonderful ideas I learn of how to celebrate pregnancy.
Looking back, I wish that I had done more ritual celebrations around my pregnancy. My experiences of the moments between the birth of my daughter and her adoption were slim. I hear other first moms talk about how precious it was when they got to hold their baby. When I held my baby, time stopped. I gazed into her precious eyes, and they swallowed me up. And, suddenly, she was gone.
Whatever your decision for yourself and your child, it’s important to have many celebrations and ceremonies together while you are pregnant. Honor the time you have with your baby. Try to enjoy every moment. All doctors say that a happy mom makes a happy baby. That doesn’t mean we don’t mess up sometimes. Trust me, I made many mistakes, but having these times together can help. Even if you share them with just one friend, it could make all the difference. And, don’t forget to take lots of pictures!
Motherhood is a rite of passage. Young women go from being maidens to being mothers. It’s about saying goodbye to our youthful selves and embracing the role we are growing into. We are given a huge responsibility, to take care of and make decisions for another person. By having a Blessingway Ceremony you can celebrate that transformation.
In western society, people throw baby showers. It’s a nice gesture to welcome the baby into the world. However, it is still important to also welcome women to the transition from maiden to a mother.
Blessingways can include having massages, manicures, and pedicures from your women friends. You can paint your belly, use henna, or do body casting. You may want to hear stories about birth to help you prepare for your own birth. You can also do protection or affirmation blessings. Oftentimes, women will ask people to bring beads and they can make necklaces, or bring yarn and call the generations of women before them to guide them. You can make a flower crown, or have music, drumming, or whatever you want. What ever speaks to you of meaning and helps you make your transition into being a mother. If you’re not sure what you might want, there are even Blessingway kits you can get to give you some ideas.
However you decide to honor yourself and your baby, it can have special meaning to you and for them for always. It allows you spend quality time thinking about this little baby growing inside of you. It also allows you to ponder the great magic of pregnancy, and your relationship to your baby.