http://unplanned-pregnancy.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/coercion Information on unplanned pregnancy, adoption, single parenting, teen pregnancy, and making an adoption plan. Sat, 27 Feb 2010 05:41:31 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 http://unplanned-pregnancy.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/coercion/comment-page-1#comment-1109 sharonloveslisa Fri, 08 Aug 2008 03:56:12 +0000 http://crisis-pregn.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/07/24/coercion#comment-1109 Hi Coley S.! I completely agree with you 100%. In my personal situation way back in 1980, I was only 17 and 1 month away from turning 18. Yet sadly I was more than coerced and tricked into giving away the only child I will ever give birth to. I miss her everyday and I carry the guilt deeply entrenched in my heart that I could not even stop this closed adoption since I did not know that this would happen to me. I could never abort her-she was my little girl! I LOVE my girl and wish she could find a way to get back to me. Both sides of our families lied to the both of us for 20+ years. I wish I knew I was signing away my precious baby girl and not a release form to leave that horrible hos-pital-as I was led to believe. I honestly feel that all closed adop-tions only serve the greedy attor-neys and ob-gyns who prey on "older generation" parents like mine who did this to me. They threw their ONLY grand-daughter away like garbage and to this day-call her that "girl"-like it doesn't hurt or make her any less real or human to me. Their own flesh & blood. This is the ugly side of closed adoptions-I would have never signed a paper giving her away had I been told what I was signing. My girl and I have paid the ultimate price while my parents and hers pretend as if nothing as life-changing as this-would ever affect her & I so deeply and in so many ways not listed here-that we are still trying to come to grips & understand who we are and why they lied. All I wanted was my beautiful baby girl. Thank-you for having the guts to write your post. It helped me and I hope to help others too who have fallen victim to closed adoptions over 20+ years ago or more. Much love & thanks for hearing me out:( God Luck to all of you searching:) Hi Coley S.! I completely agree with you 100%. In my personal situation way back in 1980, I was only 17 and 1 month away from turning 18. Yet sadly I was more than coerced and tricked into giving away the only child I will ever give birth to. I miss her everyday and I carry the guilt deeply entrenched in my heart that I could not even stop this closed adoption since I did not know that this would happen to me. I could never abort her-she was my little girl! I LOVE my girl and wish she could find a way to get back to me. Both sides of our families lied to the both of us for 20+ years. I wish I knew I was signing away my precious baby girl and not a release form to leave that horrible hos-pital-as I was led to believe. I honestly feel that all closed adop-tions only serve the greedy attor-neys and ob-gyns who prey on “older generation” parents like mine who did this to me. They threw their ONLY grand-daughter away like garbage and to this day-call her that “girl”-like it doesn’t hurt or make her any less real or human to me. Their own flesh & blood. This is the ugly side of closed adoptions-I would have never signed a paper giving her away had I been told what I was signing. My girl and I have paid the ultimate price while my parents and hers pretend as if nothing as life-changing as this-would ever affect her & I so deeply and in so many ways not listed here-that we are still trying to come to grips & understand who we are and why they lied. All I wanted was my beautiful baby girl. Thank-you for having the guts to write your post. It helped me and I hope to help others too who have fallen victim to closed adoptions over 20+ years ago or more. Much love & thanks for hearing me out:( God Luck to all of you searching:)

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