This week’s featured birthmom is Kara. Kara became unexpectedly pregnant when she was a senior in high school and placed her daughter for adoption when she was 18. Kara and her daughter’s birthfather began to consider adoption. They knew that they would never get married because of big religious difference. They also both felt that they were young and not financially ready to be parents and provide their daughter with everything she would need.

Kara was very torn and ended up bringing her daughter home and parenting her for seven weeks, but with little family support, she ultimately made an adoption plan.

It seemed that my entire family was pushing for me to place and hearing over and over that I was making a mistake by keeping her really led me to finally place her with the adoptive family.

Once Kara found out she was pregnant, she began receiving counseling through her local crisis pregnancy center. They helped her consider both of her options and she continued counseling there for months after her daughter was placed with her adoptive family.

Kara chose open adoption because she wanted to have the option of seeing that her daughter is safe, loved, happy, and healthy. The couple that adopted her daughter was friends of a friend and Kara and her boyfriend felt a connection with them. They had a lot in common with the adoptive parents and they were very open to having an open adoption. They also had the same name picked out for a possible child as Kara and her boyfriend had picked out.

Two years after Kara placed her daughter for adoption, she met the love of her life and they have now been married for nine years. Kara completed college with a degree in education and is an elementary school teacher, although she is not teaching at the time as she is busy being a stay at home mother to their one year old son and seven year old daughter.

My life is wonderful and we are extremely blessed but until my daughter and I are reunited there will always be that missing piece of my heart.

Kara also volunteers at her local pregnancy care center and has had countless opportunities to work with women in unplanned pregnancies and believes that God has used her situation to help others.

In conclusion, I asked Kara how she feels about adoption now.
Adoption is a difficult choice to make. If I had to do it over again, would I make the same choice? Knowing now what I know and what I have been through I couldn't do it again. If I could change my decision and go back I would in a heartbeat.

Thank you Kara for sharing your story with us!

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