Name Your Baby

July 31st, 2009
Categories: Baby Names

It's a topic we re-visit from time to time: naming your baby. I advise mothers considering adoption to name their child. If you aren't learning the gender of the baby until birth, go ahead and pick a name for each gender. Pick a first name. Pick a middle name. Name the baby after your grandma, your best friend or yourself. The point is: name your baby. Why? Some agencies will tell you that names aren't important. They will tell you that naming your baby will cause you to be too attached, making it harder for you to separate upon birth. What they're doing is trying to make it easier for the adoptive parents to name the baby what they have chosen. That shouldn't interfere with your right to… [more]


April 24th, 2008

I was recently reading the blog of a friend and fellow birthmom. In one of her posts, she talks about attachment and whether or not birthmoms attach to their babies. In a nut shell, she said that she tried not to attach, but she did, because it was almost impossible for her not to. I tried not to attach myself to Supergirl. Boy, did I. I tried to tell myself that I was not pregnant. You couldn’t tell me that I was. I fought about it. I denied it. I tried not to attach but then I was hooked up to the fetal monitor and she moved. She didn’t want us to bother her. So here I am, lying in a hospital bed with a nurse chasing… [more]

Top Baby Names from Last Year

March 15th, 2008
Categories: Baby Names

The lists for the most popular baby names of 2007 have recently been released. I always find naming trends so interesting and brought you the top baby names of 2006 last year, so I thought I’d do the same this year. First of all though, let me remind those of you who are actively making adoption plans, that you still have the right to name your child. Yes, the adoptive parents will be your child’s parents and they have legal rights to change his or her name to a name of their own choosing. Sometimes adoptive parents may keep one of the names that a birthmother gave her child. They may keep the first name a birthmom gave him and use it as… [more]

Can you Breastfeed if you are Making an Adoption Plan?

January 24th, 2008
Categories: Your Baby

In my last post, I discussed breastfeeding and listed some of the benefits of breastfeeding, but you may be wondering if you can breastfeed even though you are making an adoption plan. The answer is yes! Some adoption agencies and other adoption professionals may tell you that you can not breastfeed, but you can. They may want you not to breastfeed for the simple reason that breastfeeding a baby gives you a chance to bond on such an intimate level that you might change your mind regarding making an adoption plan. They may tell you that it could make things harder on you, which it could, but it is your choice to make. I’ve known of several birthmothers who just breastfed while in the hospital… [more]

Breastfeeding your Baby: Benefits

January 24th, 2008
Categories: Your Baby

As an expectant mother someone may have mentioned breastfeeding to you. This can be a touchy subject to some mothers considering adoption – I didn’t even want to think about it! But you may want to give it some thought, especially if you are leaning towards parenting. Whether or not to breastfeed is a personal decision, but one that you should educate yourself on. In this post, I will discuss breastfeeding in general and in the next post I will discuss it more specifically in the context of breastfeeding while making an adoption plan. Many doctors consider breastfeeding better for a baby than bottle feeding as there are many benefits to breastfeeding. Even if you are only able to breastfeed for a short period of… [more]

More on the Name Issue

June 12th, 2007
Categories: Baby Names

So, you may be thinking, if I name my child can the adoptive parents change his/her name? Yes, the adoptive parents will be your child’s parents and they have legal rights to change his or her name to a name of their own choosing. Sometimes adoptive parents may keep one of the names that a birthmother gave her child. They may keep the first name a birthmom gave him and use it as middle or do something with his name to acknowledge the name she chose as well. With the more open adoptions of today, adoptive parents and birthparents may choose a name together during pregnancy or sometimes adoptive parents may ask the birthmother to choose a middle name for… [more]

The Naming Issue

June 11th, 2007
Categories: Baby Names

In my recent post about regrets, I mentioned that one of my few regrets is not giving my son, Charlie, a name of my own choosing. I’ve heard a few other birthmothers mention that they are saddened they did not give their child a name of their own choosing as well, so let’s look at this dilemma a little closer using myself and my situation as the example. Why do I regret not giving Charlie a name of my own choosing? I can’t really put my finger on it and tell you one specific reason. Almost all other mothers choose a name for their child and I now feel I shouldn’t have been any different just because I was making… [more]


October 14th, 2006
Categories: General, Your Baby

Recently I wrote a post about the unexpected – when unexpected complications pop up during pregnancy. One of these complications could be premature labor and delivery. A friend recently gave birth to her son five weeks early and he now remains in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit, otherwise known as the NICU. Seeing pictures of her tiny baby in the NICU reminded me of my son’s NICU days and the fact that no one usually expects for their baby to end up in the NICU. It’s just something that happens. I wasn’t prepared for this and I doubt my friend was either. It could happen to you as well, even though it’s unexpected and surprising. It’s so overwhelming to go in the NICU… [more]

More on Baby Names

October 12th, 2006
Categories: Baby Names

Why You Should Choose A Name Yesterday I talked about baby names. I received a few comments as the result of that post and wanted to expand on them…. Jenna wrote, “Could you write more on why it is important for those who DO choose adoption to name their child? Munchkin was only ever Munchkin to me... and I kind of regret that. Not that we don't all LOVE the name Munchkin which is still a nickname...” First of all, I should say, that it is your right to name your baby even if you do make an adoption plan and ultimately place your child for adoption. You still have the right to name him or her and then of course the adoptive… [more]

Baby Names

October 10th, 2006
Categories: Baby Names

As a child or a teenager, did you dream up names for your future children? I did! I came up with these really crazy names as a teenager. I was a tree hugger and ocean lover and wanted to name my children after the ocean. I’m almost embarrassed to admit the hideous names I came up with. Ok, ok I will tell you the names but let’s keep it our little secret. If I had daughters I wanted to name them Oceanianna and Dolphina. Of course, I was only going to have daughters, like I could control that, right? But when you are a teenager, you have it all figured out! So since I’ve grown up, I have chosen more normal names… [more]