Birthmom of the Week: Amanda B.

November 15th, 2007

This week’s featured birthmom is Amanda B. At age 21, Amanda became unexpectedly pregnant. She did consider parenting but eventually decided that making an adoption plan would be the best thing for her child as she had just lost her job, health insurance, and her baby’s father had just moved over nine hundred miles away. Amanda describes her life as being very chaotic before and during the time she found out she was pregnant. I was way too entirely overwhelmed. Beginning an adoption plan was the first pillar of stability that I found in my chaos. Her son’s birth father was not involved at all so Amanda made all the decisions regarding adoption on her own. Flipping through profile booklets of couples hoping to adopt, something… [more]

Birthmom of the Week: Tamara B.

October 17th, 2007

Tamara B. is this week’s featured birthmother. Thirteen years ago, Tamara found herself in an unplanned pregnancy. She considered parenting but ultimately decided that adoption would be the best solution for her situation. She and her baby’s birthfather were no longer together and Tamara could foresee the future of struggling with medical costs and college costs as real as the everyday costs involved in parenting a child. Tamara began meeting with a pregnancy counselor to learn more about adoption. She chose the adoptive parents of her son. The adoption counselors and I both feel that the Lord had a hand in selecting these parents. They so closely matched what I wanted. There were a lot of similarities, there were artistic abilities and… [more]

Birthmom of the Week: Jennifer W. (part 2)

October 9th, 2007

Part 1 Right after Jennifer placed her daughter Tonya into transitional care, Jennifer absorbed in grief and despair, met up with her husband as the divorce had not yet taken place. I met up with my husband at the time and spent the night with him. Six week later, I found out I was pregnant. Upon finding out I was pregnant and in the process of placing Tonya, there was never a question that I would place this one. If I could not keep Tonya, at least I could give her a sibling. The adoptive parents Jennifer had selected for Tonya did know that Jennifer was pregnant, but initially, Jennifer was not allowed (by the adoption agency) to ask them about… [more]

Birthmom of the Week: Jennifer W.

October 9th, 2007

This week’s featured birthmother of the week is Jennifer W. Jennifer is a birthmother to two daughters. At the age of twenty, Jennifer gave birth to her first daughter, Tonya (that’s the name Jennifer gave her, it was later changed.) Jennifer originally intended to place Tonya for adoption at birth, but as her due date neared and the reality became more emotional, Jennifer decided to parent her. Jennifer married her boyfriend (who was not Tonya’s birthfather) five days before Tonya was born. It was a problematic marriage from the get go and he left after just three months of marriage, only to come back shortly later, then leave again. Jennifer continually struggled with very little support as she parented Tonya for thirteen months… [more]

Birthmom of the Week: Tammie

October 2nd, 2007

This week’s featured birthmother is Tammie. At the age of sixteen, Tammie became unexpectedly pregnant. Her unborn baby’s father was not supportive and even denied that the baby was his. When she initially found out she was pregnant, her parents kicked her out of the house. Eventually, a few months later, they let her return. Knowing that she wasn’t financially or emotionally ready to be a parent and handle the responsibility that goes along with being a parent and having little support, Tammie opted to make an adoption plan. Tammie found a local adoption agency and chose the adoptive parents that adopted her son after looking through profiles of different couples who were all hoping to adopt. She chose that particular couple because they had… [more]

Birthmom of the Week: Kara

September 26th, 2007

This week’s featured birthmom is Kara. Kara became unexpectedly pregnant when she was a senior in high school and placed her daughter for adoption when she was 18. Kara and her daughter’s birthfather began to consider adoption. They knew that they would never get married because of big religious difference. They also both felt that they were young and not financially ready to be parents and provide their daughter with everything she would need. Kara was very torn and ended up bringing her daughter home and parenting her for seven weeks, but with little family support, she ultimately made an adoption plan. It seemed that my entire family was pushing for me to place and hearing over and over that I was making a… [more]

Birthmom of the Week: Jamie

September 19th, 2007

This week’s featured birthmom is Jamie. As a single mother to one daughter, Jamie knows all that goes into being a parent so when she found herself in a second unplanned pregnancy; she began to think about adoption. Jamie had only been in a temporary relationship with her baby’s father when she found out that he was abusing narcotics and had been charged with assaulting a female and was not supporting the children he already had. After finding out that information about her baby’s birthdad and knowing that she had little family support, Jamie ultimately decided that adoption would be the best option for her baby. Jamie chose an open adoption so that she would be able to have some type of… [more]

Birthmom of the Week: Tracy V.

September 11th, 2007

I’ve decided to bring back the BirthMom of the Week Segment as it was a favorite amongst many so I will attempt to spotlight a different birthmother each week. I’ll vary the age of the birthmothers and the type of adoption in order to give us a good mix of experiences. This week’s featured birthmom is Tracy V. from Minnesota. Tracy is now happily married and parenting two elementary school aged sons. Tracy is also the birthmother to D. who is seventeen years old and was placed in a semi-open adoption directly following his birth. Tracy was twenty one years old when she made her adoption plan and gave birth to D. She remembers thinking how young she was but now she’s seen girls much… [more]

Birthmom of the Week: Leigh H.

April 3rd, 2007

This week’s Birthmother of the Week is a dear friend of mine, Leigh H. I met Leigh online about two years ago and we bonded first via email and now via late night chats on the phone – usually about the same daytime soap that we are both (unfortunately) addicted to! Leigh is from the snowy state of Massachusetts and placed her daughter in an open adoption. Leigh’s daughter, J, will turn three on the 17th of this month. 1. How old were you when you placed your child for adoption? Well, I wasn’t in my teens or 20’s. I was 32 about to turn 33. This was my first child. 2. What circumstances led you to choose adoption? B (birthdad)… [more]

Birthmom of the Week: Amy M. Part 2

March 27th, 2007

Part 1 7. What type of adoption did you choose and why? I chose an open adoption. I chose this…because I could not see myself placing my child and then not ever knowing or seeing her again. I did some research and found that open adoption is healthier for all involved. 8. How do you feel about adoption now? I am happy about my adoption right now. I am busy doing other things right now, and so I do not have time to sit and be sad for my choice. I know that I did a right thing. I have not felt sad about my choice since late last year. 9. Anything else to add? I love the relationship… [more]