In the world of adoption lingo, Termination of Parental Rights (TPR) is a frequently discussed phrase. Unfortunately, as laws differ from state to state, understanding the process can be difficult. It's hard to research the topic in places like our forums as each individual adoption scenario will have its own unique outcome regarding the process of terminating the rights of a mother and father. I thought it would benefit you if we looked at the topic as it affects you and your child. In the simplest of terms, the Termination of Parental Rights is a legal process that severs the ties from the biological family and gives all parenting rights to the adoptive family. It gets more complex than that when you… [more]
If you are considering relinquishment, you may be working with an adoption agency. Adoption agencies can be a great tool to use when seeking out potential adoptive parents for your child. They can also hinder the process in certain ways. I always talk about the absolute need to find an ethical adoption agency. However, I want you to consider something very important that isn't really an ethical matter but more of a business matter. That sounds awful, doesn't it? That the placement of your baby would be likened to that of a business transaction? Unfortunately, to too many agencies, it comes down to that. Even if you remove the money from the equation, the truth is that some social workers and agency workers… [more]
Even though you are considering adoption, you still have the right to bring your baby home from the hospital. Some expectant mothers considering adoption may take their baby home from the hospital with the intent to parent. Some may be successful at parenting while others may decide once giving parenting a try that adoption is still the right decision for them. There are others still that may bring their baby home for an amount of time to have a little more time with their baby fully intending to place their child for adoption once they have spent more time with their baby outside of a hospital setting. There are days that I regret not at least trying to parent. I will never know for… [more]
In my last post, Things the Adoption Agency or Professionals Forgot to Tell You, your rights were mentioned more than once so I thought it would be a wise idea to post them so that you are completely aware of what your rights are. Please note: You do not become a birthparent until you sign relinquishment papers signing over the rights of your child. Until then, you are still your child’s parent… You have the right to:
- Be treated with respect and dignity.
- Choose, meet, and ask questions of the adoptive parents to raise your baby.
- Have all of your questions answered honestly and truthfully.
- Hold, see, spend time with, and name your baby.
- Choose the level of openness you