Open Adoption: Does He Know?

September 1st, 2011

nellieIt truly amazes me as I look back, how much one child changed me life forever. After receiving pictures in the mail from the adoptive family today and secluding myself into my room I really looked at them. As tears slipped down my cheeks my only thought was this: Does he know how much he is loved? I may not be an immediate part of his life, but I am the one who carried him for 9 months, and held him as my own for four days , when he was really never mine to begin with. I loved him for our four days, with such depth that I lost sleep, just to squeeze every minute out of the hospital experience. I loved him, and… [more]

Open Adoption: My Journey

September 1st, 2011

mountain_roadWhen I was a little girl, I never dreamt I would become pregnant and place a child for adoption. I didn’t understand until I saw the caseworkers walk out the hospital door with my newborn son Phoenix, the finality of my decision. It was heartbreaking and for awhile I struggled with where I was in that. The great part of my story, the part I reflect on when times are hard is the perfect family he became a part of. I didn’t have a family picked out. He was going to a foster family, whom I knew nothing about. When I met the foster mom, I asked her how my baby was doing. When she replied, I was blown away by her authenticity… [more]

Co-Parenting and Eating Cake

February 28th, 2008

If you are considering open adoption and are being vocal with this consideration or doing any research, you may see (if you are reading online) and hear from others various myths about open adoption. One of those common myths is that open adoption is comparable to co-parenting. I’ve even heard some people go as far as to say that open adoption is a glorified form of baby sitting or that open adoption is “having your cake and eating it too.” First of all, let’s look at the definition for co=parenting. Co-parenting is defined as: An arrangement in which parents share legal and physical custody of a child or children. - Source Co-parenting situations are typical in cases where custody is shared between two sets of parents… [more]

Ongoing Contact in Your Adoption

February 13th, 2007
Categories: Ongoing Contact

If you are considering making an adoption plan for your unborn baby, you may be considering open adoption with on going contact. In open adoptions you will actively participate in making one. You will begin to think about openness and the amount of openness and contact you may want in an adoption plan. There’s a lot to think about! When you are in the midst of making an adoption plan it can be overwhelming and your mind may skip over some of the details. An ethical adoption agency or adoption professional should go over all of this with you and the prospective adoptive family to make sure you are on the same page as far as contact goes. If there is a major… [more]