Communicating Your Desires with an Agency

October 30th, 2009

CommunicatingIf you are considering relinquishment, you may be working with an adoption agency. Adoption agencies can be a great tool to use when seeking out potential adoptive parents for your child. They can also hinder the process in certain ways. I always talk about the absolute need to find an ethical adoption agency. However, I want you to consider something very important that isn't really an ethical matter but more of a business matter. That sounds awful, doesn't it? That the placement of your baby would be likened to that of a business transaction? Unfortunately, to too many agencies, it comes down to that. Even if you remove the money from the equation, the truth is that some social workers and agency workers… [more]

Holiday Survival

November 14th, 2008

If you're experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, you may be a little apprehensive about this holiday season. The holidays are notorious for family gatherings, running into old friends and general public meetings. How far along you are in your pregnancy will have an affect on how you might need to deal with people and their questions this season. If you're just newly pregnant, you won't likely have to field questions in public places. Running into a friend at the mall won't present a requirement to explain the basketball under your coat if you still aren't showing. You can, therefore, pick and choose whom you will tell about the pregnancy. When I say pick and choose, I do mean to be selective. The holidays are emotional enough on their… [more]

Changing Circumstances

October 21st, 2006
Categories: Issues that Arise

We all change and experience change in our lives, whether it be the weather, an aspect of our personality, a liking to a certain food, or more major things like marital status, moving to a new location, having more children, etc. It’s important to remember when making an adoption plan that the circumstances and situations on which you based your reasoning for making an adoption plan in the first place are subject to change. For example, you think it is necessary for your baby to grow up in a two parent home and that is one of the big reasons contributing to your decision to make an adoption plan. Later on in the future, the adoptive couple you have placed your child with… [more]

Failed Matches in Adoption

July 26th, 2006
Categories: Issues that Arise

Recently, Maja over at the birthparents blog, wrote about failed matches. I thought this was an interesting topic that we should bring to light in this blog for those of you who are making adoption plans. matches Before we go much further, let me define what I mean by the term “match.” In this case, I am referring to the prospective adoptive parents and expectant mother who have been paired up together and are planning to work together in an adoption agreement. Typically, it’s usually adoptive parents that we hear of discussing failed matches. These occur when a potential birthmom changes her mind and chooses to parent. But adoptive parents are not the only ones who have had failed matches. This does happen to… [more]