Awhile ago an expectant mother considering placement asked a series of questions as to whether or not she should stick with the agency she had initially contacted. Her questions boiled down to one: Should I find a new agency? Gut instinct tells me that if you're even asking yourself that question, the answer is probably, "Yes." This isn't always the case, of course, as some people have personalities that are prone to doubting. However, if you are actively asking yourself questions as to the ethics, moral compass or financial profit of the agency, you're probably right to step back and reconsider the agency for another. All too often the parents considering placement are lead to believe that once they have sent in their forms… [more]
A few months ago, an expectant mother posted about her dilemma. She had lost a long-time job when her employer passed away. She was pregnant. She couldn't manage bills or rent. The government programs, like many experience, were filled with a lot of red tape and errors kept occurring. To boot, she couldn't find an OBGYN in her area that accepted Medicaid. When she contacted the agency, she was told that nothing could be done to actually help her until her baby was born as they lived in state where money can't be used to help mothers considering placement. I'm torn. I have a problem with agencies and adoptive families providing financial care for expectant parents. The problem I have with that scenario is that it often creates a feeling… [more]
I see expectant parents lament the agency with whom they are working all the time. I applaud their gusto and knowledge because I didn't even know enough to complain about mine while I was pregnant and working with them on the placement of my child. However, I continue to see an error in thought that I just wanted to clear up for those who happen upon this blog by chance or search. You, as an expectant parent, are not bound to any one agency. You have paid them no money. While you may have done things like sign papers allowing them to view your medical records and filled out a lengthy report on your health history, that means nothing. You can get up, walk away and not… [more]
Now that you have a type of adoption in mind, you can begin to search for an agency if that is the route you choose. Some tips in looking for an agency:
- If you want an open adoption, you need to make sure that the agency handles open adoptions. Some agencies may claim to and in reality it is more of a semi open adoption. If you get a bad vibe from one agency or they donâ€™t seem to offer exactly what you are looking for then try another agency!
- Begin by looking up adoption agencies in the local yellow pages or online. If online, you can read a little information about them on their website, but keep in mind
Thereâ€™s a new article in the About.comâ€™s Adoption section all about adoption agencies. The article is geared towards expectant mothers considering adoption and hopeful adoptive couples each looking for adoption agencies to work with. It contains advice from a birthmother and an adoptive mother. It tells you warning signs to look out for letting you know that a particular agency might not be so good and positive signs that point out good, reputable agencies. Below are a few of the highlights from the article, but you really should read it in itâ€™s entirety. Good information! Warning sign: Agencies that advertise big budgets to "recruit" birth mothers. This feels like the adoption agency is aggressive and more likely to pressure young women. This makes… [more]
Iâ€™ve touched on this before, but think itâ€™s worth touching on it again. If you are pregnant and making an adoption plan, one of your options is to go through an adoption agency. Finding a reputable and ethical adoption agency can be tricky.
- If you are wanting an open adoption, you need to make sure the agency you are choosing handles open adoptions. Some agencies may claim to handle fully open adoptions, but then in reality, they encourage more of a semi open adoption. If you get a bad vibe from an agency or they donâ€™t seem to offer what you are looking for, find another agency!
- Begin by looking up adoption agencies in the local yellow pages or online
If you have decided to move forward with an adoption plan and think youâ€™d like the services of an agency to help facilitate this adoption, you now have the task of choosing an agency.
Personally speaking, I did a private adoption (more on that another day) but many people use agencies to find a prospective adoptive family. Agencies (or most of the reputable, good ones) also offer post adoptive services that you can take advantage of as well.
I think the first thing we must do is define exactly what an adoption agency is. According to Adoption Services,"An agency adoption is when the placement is arranged through an adoption agency that has been carefully screened by the state to assure that a full range… [more]