Open Adoption: My Journey

September 1st, 2011

mountain_roadWhen I was a little girl, I never dreamt I would become pregnant and place a child for adoption. I didn’t understand until I saw the caseworkers walk out the hospital door with my newborn son Phoenix, the finality of my decision. It was heartbreaking and for awhile I struggled with where I was in that. The great part of my story, the part I reflect on when times are hard is the perfect family he became a part of. I didn’t have a family picked out. He was going to a foster family, whom I knew nothing about. When I met the foster mom, I asked her how my baby was doing. When she replied, I was blown away by her authenticity… [more]

Is Your Agency Properly Promoting Open Adoption?

September 28th, 2009

Open DoorIf you are considering relinquishment and working with an adoption agency, I encourage you to look at some of the ways in which they are talking to you, about adoption and about your future. It can be overwhelming to come into a possible placement without knowing anything about adoption. Some agencies take advantage of that fact, hoping that you'll take everything they say at face value. While there are some great agencies out there who offer you all of the information needed in able to make an informed decision, not every agency works in such an ethical manner. As such, it's important for you to know a few things. Some adoption agencies promote open adoption out the wazoo. Don't get me wrong… [more]

Learn How to Communicate Now

November 1st, 2008

If you are already matched with a potential family for your baby or in the process of seeking out such a family, I have one very important bit of advice for you: Learn how to effectively communicate. Now. Trust me on this one! Right now, you are just getting to know one another. You are trying to get a feel for their personalities, their character and whether or not you feel that they will be the best family to raise your child. You are probably tentative in your question asking and in how you reply to their questions of you. You are likely to shy away from conflict out of a mixture of fear and respect. All of that is normal and expected. But you need to try… [more]