Expectant Mothers Beware: Blue Moon on New Year’s Eve!

December 31st, 2009

Full MoonThat's right, my pregnant readers. Tonight is New Year's Eve. Not only will there be a full moon tonight but it is a blue moon! In case you don't know, a blue moon is the second full moon in a calendar month. This is the first time in 19 years that a Blue Moon has fallen on New Year's Eve. So what's that have to do with pregnancy? And why the beware? There's an old wives' tale that more babies are born on a full moon that any other time during a month. Some people really try to discount it. I can tell you that all three of my babies were born the day before, the day of or the day after… [more]

Discussing Adoption With Your Healthcare Provider

July 31st, 2009

As you continue to research your options between parenting and placement, you may be wondering just exactly who needs to be told and when they need to be told. You may fear the judgment that some people may pass on you as you share your plans to place your child for adoption. As such, you might not be open and ready to tell every person you come in contact with about your adoption plan. That's okay. The question remains: should you discuss it with your healthcare provider? It depends. If you are working with an agency, you will likely have to sign a waiver that allows them to access your health records. If you utilize a smaller doctor's office, chances are that your nurses, at the very least, will… [more]

What to Do: Learn About Birth

December 3rd, 2008

Wednesday again and that means it is time for What To Do Wednesdays! This week I'm going to start it off with what seems like an easy step in this process. Trust me, it's a bit more complicated than it will initially sound. Today's task is to learn about birth. I know you're probably thinking, "Really! Birth is the last thing on my mind right now! That comes later." Well, it does come later. But it is one of those things that will affect you whether you decide to parent or place your child for adoption. It is one of the inevitable factors of pregnancy. Birth happens. I went into the labor and delivery room with the daughter I relinquished for adoption horribly unprepared for what would happen within those four… [more]

Visitors in the Hospital

August 13th, 2008

In my last post, I wrote about giving some thought to who you want to be in the delivery room with you when you are in labor. But another issue that will arise during your hospital stay is who you want or do not want to visit you in the hospital. Typically most new mothers will have anywhere from one to three days in the hospital after giving birth. It depends on your health, hospital policy, what type of delivery you have, etc… Unless you take your baby home from the hospital with you before placement (which is totally an option, read more about that here) then the hospital time may be the only alone time you have with your newborn. While it is… [more]

Who Will be in the Delivery Room with You?

July 28th, 2008

Have you given any thought as to who you would like to be in the delivery room with you when you give birth? As your due date draws near this is something that you will want to give some thought to. If you are still involved with your baby’s father, have a boyfriend or spouse, then they are an obvious choice. If you are still friendly with your child’s father but not “together” then you may still wish to ask him to be in the delivery room with you since this is his child too, but also don’t do anything or ask anyone who makes you feel uncomfortable. If you are not with your child’s father or the thought of having him in the delivery room… [more]

Planning

August 3rd, 2007

I’m a planner by nature. I like to plan things out ahead of time so I can have some of idea of how things will flow. I think it’s inbred in my genes. My dad used to even plan the potty breaks in our vacation itineraries as a child! So it wasn’t surprising to me or to anyone who knew me very well that during my pregnancy with Charlie I would be planning how his birth would go. Unfortunately, no amount of planning can prepare you for the unexpected. While pregnancies and giving birth occurs daily, no two pregnancies are the same. No matter how routine or normal your pregnancy may appear to be or how routine previous pregnancies may have been (if you… [more]

Hospital Series: Creating a Birth Plan

July 17th, 2007

At some point in your pregnancy you may wish to make a birth plan. A birth plan is a written outline of your wishes and desires for your child birthing experience. It also can cover what you would like to happen if common complications (like needing a c-section) arise. It can be as detailed or as un-detailed as you wish. Many women are deciding that they want a say in what goes on and have created birth plans for that purpose. It’s a simple and non-confrontational way for you to make your wishes and desires known. A birth plan is just a statement of preferences and will not over ride any necessary medical procedures and is subject to change by you at any… [more]

Hospital Series: Labor Support Person

July 17th, 2007

You will need a labor coach or labor support person (sometimes called a labor coach) there with you to assist you and cheer you on during the labor and delivery process. Have you given any thought to who you might choose? Your labor support person’s role is to provide emotional support and physical support during the labor and delivery. You should choose someone you trust and someone you feel comfortable bearing it all with. If you are still involved with your baby’s father, then he may be an obvious choice for a support person. But if you are not comfortable with having him there with you, then a close friend, mother, aunt, sister, or another family member may also be a good choice. Below… [more]

Labor Support Person

April 4th, 2007

Ask anyone who has given birth before and I am sure that they will tell you that labor is not fun or easy! As much as you may not want to admit it, you need and depend on the support of others during labor. Of course, you will have doctors and nurses around, but you need people who know and love you there with you as well. As you begin to think about your upcoming labor and delivery, have you thought about who you’d like there with you? Who would make a good support person? Of course, you have doctors and nurses available when needed while in the hospital, but having someone who knows you, someone whose main purpose in being there… [more]

Packing Your Bags

April 4th, 2007

I have been busy packing and preparing to go on vacation during my son’s spring break. We are heading to Atlanta, Georgia but I will do my best to post a little bit while away as long as the hotel has high speed internet! Packing my suitcase reminded me of something everyone who is preparing to go to the hospital and give birth in the near future should think about: Packing your suitcase! Somewhere in the third trimester (earlier if you are at high risk for early labor) of your pregnancy you probably should go ahead and think about packing a bag with the items you will need to have ready so that when you do actually go into labor, you are prepared. By doing… [more]