Living to Love

January 31st, 2012
Posted By: on Crisis Pregnancy

For those who know, I am a birth-first mother who has experienced two unplanned pregnancies--one in adulthood and one in my teens. I have always had a "modus operandi"--a way of handling difficult things. Something in common with both pregnancies-- I ran away from responsibility, didn't face the truth of the situation and when things got tough I found a way to cope. I escaped into video games, and TV and decided to not face the change that would happen, whether I was ready or not. With the first born, Kenny, I celebrated and my pregnancy was very public and I was unaware of what it would take to become a parent. I had a ton of people come visit me in the hospital, and my family even welcomed me back into the… [more]

Keeping Warm While Pregnant

November 29th, 2009
Categories: Physical Health

If you are due sometime this Winter or in the early Spring, you may be watching your waistline expand and your clothing options in your closet dwindle. Especially as the cold air sets in, you may be wondering how you can afford a whole new wardrobe to fit your pregnant figure. Fashion aside, keeping warm is a main concern. I was always due in the late Autumn and early Winter so I dealt with some of that myself. Here are some tricks of the trade to stretching your Winter maternity wardrobe. (Pun intended.) 1. Get warm socks. It seems silly but the truth is that if you can keep warm but dry (read: not sweaty) feet, the rest of your body will feel warmer. As… [more]

Healthy Food Choices During Pregnancy

October 17th, 2009
Categories: Wellness

FoodI warned you first about some foods to avoid during pregnancy. The good news is that, minus that short list, the world of food is open and ready for your consumption! Those often talked about cravings that are rumored to accompany pregnancy aren't just a rumor! You might find yourself longing for a candy bar one moment and then desperately needing Mexican food in the next thought. While it's fun to indulge, it's also important to remember to eat certain things while pregnant. Eating healthy can help ensure that both you and your baby are as healthy as possible! The question then remains: what are some healthy foods that can benefit you and your child? The most important thing to remember when it… [more]

Foods to Avoid While Pregnant

October 10th, 2009
Categories: Wellness

FoodJust because you're experiencing an unplanned pregnancy doesn't mean that you can't take care of yourself and this growing baby. Whether you choose to parent or place your baby, you should be eating well during this time. Your baby needs good nutrition to grow. You need good nutrition to stay afloat in order to deal with the physical demands of pregnancy and the emotional demands of dealing with this situation. So how do you eat healthy while pregnant? First and foremost, there are some foods you should avoid. It seems awfully pessimistic to talk about those first but it is also important. (Soon I'll talk about foods you can, or should, be eating.) Unfortunately, if you google "foods to avoid while pregnant," you'll… [more]

Managing the Stress of an Unplanned Pregnancy

September 30th, 2009

PregnancyPregnancy can be stressful. Even pregnancies that were meticulously planned can be wrought with tension and anxiety. The truth is that growing a child in your womb may be a natural process but, thanks to technology, we're also keenly aware of what can go wrong. Add in the emotions that a mother experiencing an unplanned pregnancy and considering relinquishment might be feeling and it can get to be a rather stressful time. But that's not good. March of Dimes has some facts about stress and pregnancy that you should definitely read up on. In fact, they address the risks of high stress levels in pregnancy (something you may be experiencing). A number of studies suggest that high levels of stress in pregnancy… [more]

Warning Signs and Symptoms of Pre-Term Labor

July 31st, 2009
Categories: Complications

When you found out you were pregnant with this child, your main concern was most likely about handling the financial aspects. You probably didn't stop to consider, "What if something goes wrong with the pregnancy and the baby arrives early?" The truth is, you're not alone. There aren't many expectant mothers who want to consider the worst case scenario from the get-go. Usually only those mothers who have known health conditions prior to becoming pregnant familiarize themselves with the signs and symptoms of pre-term labor before they actually start happening. That's why I'm here today! Not to scare you, of course. In fact, I hope the majority of expectant mothers reading this post never have to stop and think, "Is that what is going on?" I hope you… [more]

Your Chance of Miscarriage

March 24th, 2009
Categories: Health, Pregnancy

I've rarely seen the issue of miscarriage discussed on sites dedicated to unplanned pregnancy. I'm not sure why this is happening but the truth is that miscarriages happen. They happen to mothers who have meticulously planned their pregnancies. They happen to mothers who are rather surprised by the fact that they are pregnant. They simply happen. According to Dr. Sears, my favorite pediatrician and author, the odds are in your favor for having a healthy baby at the end of this nine month experience. However, the statistics are somewhat hazy as well. Most pregnancies begin with a healthy fetus, growing in a normal uterus, and result in a healthy baby. Studies have shown that around 10 percent of confirmed pregnancies end in miscarriage. Very early in… [more]

Losing an Unexpected Pregnancy

March 24th, 2009
Categories: Complications, Health

One thing I don't see discussed very often on sites addressing unplanned pregnancies is the possibility of miscarriage. The truth is that miscarriages are very common. Whether your pregnancy was meticulously planned or rather unexpected, you run a risk for losing your baby. According to Dr. Sears (one of my favorite parenting doctors and authors), the statistics are in favor of having a healthy, breathing baby at the end of a pregnancy but the fact remains that miscarriages occur. Most pregnancies begin with a healthy fetus, growing in a normal uterus, and result in a healthy baby. Studies have shown that around 10 percent of confirmed pregnancies end in miscarriage. Very early in pregnancy, however, miscarriage may be confused with an unusually heavy, late menstrual period. So… [more]

Sunday Secrets: Suicide & Unplanned Pregnancy

October 27th, 2008
Categories: Mental Health

While reading the Sunday Secrets over at Post Secret yesterday, I came across one that really made me stop and think. It made me think about my own unplanned pregnancy. It made me think about my life before that positive pregnancy test. And it made me think of our readers on this blog. The photo was of two hands resting on a very pregnant belly. The text read: If it hadn't been for an unplanned pregnancy, my next attempt at ending life would have succeeded. It really made my breath catch in my throat. I am sure that some read that secret and passed judgments on the anonymous mother. I am sure that some thought to themselves, "No one who has ever had thoughts like that… [more]

Trouble Sleeping?

October 21st, 2008
Categories: Health

Recently I have been having a lot of trouble sleeping at night. It takes me forever to fall to sleep and then once I am asleep I wake up multiple times. While I am not pregnant, this sleeping issue reminds me of being pregnant with Charlie. Towards the end of my pregnancy, I had the hardest time finding a comfortable position to sleep in. Are you experiencing difficulty sleeping during your pregnancy? You are not alone! Issues with sleep are common amongst pregnant women especially during the third trimester. Below are a few things that could be preventing you from sleeping or could be waking you up during the night as well as ways to deal with them. Do you wake up a lot to go to the bathroom? Do not drink… [more]