Living to Love

January 31st, 2012
Posted By: on Crisis Pregnancy

For those who know, I am a birth-first mother who has experienced two unplanned pregnancies--one in adulthood and one in my teens. I have always had a "modus operandi"--a way of handling difficult things. Something in common with both pregnancies-- I ran away from responsibility, didn't face the truth of the situation and when things got tough I found a way to cope. I escaped into video games, and TV and decided to not face the change that would happen, whether I was ready or not. With the first born, Kenny, I celebrated and my pregnancy was very public and I was unaware of what it would take to become a parent. I had a ton of people come visit me in the hospital, and my family even welcomed me back into the… [more]


May 31st, 2007
Categories: Post Placement, Regret

“Regret is insight that comes a day too late.” ~ Unknown I think the question I probably get asked the most from both birthmothers and pregnant women considering adoption alike has to be “Do you regret your decision to place your baby for adoption?” On the surface, one might think that question would have a simple yes or no answer. But oh boy, that’s a loaded question with a very complicated answer. The way I look at it is that I made the best possible decision with the information I had at the time of Charlie’s birth. Had I had a crystal ball back then and the ability to see into the future, I wouldn’t have made that decision. But unfortunately, I don’t have… [more]

Regretting adoption

July 21st, 2006

regret3 As a birthmother, one of the questions I get asked the most by women considering adoption has to be “Do you regret placing your son for adoption?” According to Mr. Webster, the definition of regret is: regret (ri-'gret, verb 1 a : to mourn the loss or death of b : to miss very much 2 : to be very sorry for (regrets his mistakes) Answering the question, “do you regret placing your son for adoption” is no easy task! It’s not really a question I can answer with yes and no. It’s way more complex than that. Do I regret that I did the best thing for my son? Of course not!! Do I wish that things were different and I could have… [more]