In yesterday’s post I talked about writing a letter to your child, one that attempts to answer the big question on every adopted person’s mind: “Why?”

If you don’t know how to begin, one place to start might be to read the words of those women who have gone before you. I know of at least one resource that has collected letters from birthmothers to the children they placed for adoption.

It’s called "I Wish For You a Beautiful Life: Letters from the Korean Birth Mothers of Ae Ran Won to their Children." (Located in Seoul, Korea, Ae Ran Won is a home for women in crisis... more

When you are making your decisions about adoption, it isn’t possible to check out too many books. You should read everything you can get your hands on regarding adoption.

I may discuss some or all of these titles at greater length in the future, but for now, let me give you a brief rundown on some of my favorite adoption books.

Birthmothers – Merry Bloch Jones. Published in 1993, this focuses largely on closed adoption birthmothers. As a result, it feels somewhat dated, but it’s still an accurate picture of life after relinquishment. Not to be missed.

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