I thought that one way to give you the widest possible range of advice would be to ask my birthparent friends what they would say to you. That way, you can hear from women and men in all kinds of adoptions, from open to closed, and from those who are satisfied with their decision as well as those who think it was a mistake.

Here’s the first installment.

Paula Henderson is a birthmom from New York. Her birth daughter is almost 17, and they have a fully open adoption. Paula volunteers as a birth mother support group leader. She writes:

“What would I tell a pregnant woman who is looking at all her options?

First - no choice you make will be an easy choice.... more

Several of my fellow bloggers at adoptionblogs.com have been talking about the issue of gratitude today, from various perspectives in the triad. It seems it's pretty common for society to expect adopted people to feel grateful, either for not being aborted or for being taken in by an adoptive family.

I thought I’d chime in on the notion of gratitude and how it relates to you in a crisis pregnancy.

If you’re working on an adoption plan, you’re probably hearing plenty of people praise the "unselfish" nature of your decision. They’re telling you that surrendering your baby is the most loving choice you can make, and that it's what your... more