Not the usual crisis pregnancy post today but I am using my blog as my sounding board today.

I’m a fan of news shows such as Dateline and 20/20. When I was younger, I found them boring but as I get older I watch them more and more - second to Reality TV, of course.

Sunday night’s Dateline NBC covered the topic of adoption so of course I had to tune in. I tune into a lot of adoption related stories even when I know that I probably won’t like what they say or how they portray adoption but so I can adequately... more

Since today is Father’s Day, I really wanted to post something honoring the dads out there – whether they are birthdads who participated in the adoption plan, adoptive dads, or just regular ole' Dads, but I struggled with what to say regarding birthdads. I guess this is because my son’s birthdad was not involved at all with the adoption plan and that experience has tainted my view of birthdads in general.

However, in my work at BirthMom Buds, I have gotten to know a few birthdads of our members and the birthdads that are involved are supportive of the adoption plan and go through the ups and downs just as birthmothers do, they just don’t show it as much as the birthmothers do. I guess... more

A lot of people assume (as I did, before my introduction to the world of adoption) that adopted kids were originally unwanted. Isn’t that the taunt we commonly hear on the school playground? “Nah, nah. You were adopted—your mother didn’t want you.”

But in reality, nothing could be less true. There is a big difference between unplanned and unwanted.

I wanted my son very badly. Wanting him is the reason I put up such resistance to the idea of getting an abortion. It’s why I made a place... more

Hi, and welcome to the Crisis Pregnancy blog. My name is Heather, and I look forward to making this a safe and helpful place for women who are facing unexpected pregnancies.

In this forum we'll be talking about things like locating resources for support, the importance of trying parenting first, the pros and cons of adoption, deciding between using an agency versus doing a private adoption, finding a reputable agency, keeping the birth father involved, dealing with pressure from family and friends, making a birth plan for the hospital, and many other topics as well. If you have subjects you want me to address, feel free to e-mail me at crisispregnancyblog@adoptionmail.com,... more